Are you stressed out of your mind? Would rather stay at home and hide away? Is someone you know not acting like their usual self? These are all signs of: Depression

What is Depression?

What is Depression?

Depression is a downward change in your mood to emotions of sadness and hopelessness- feeling your lowest (worst). Many people who feel emotionally down can often can snap out of it but with depression they can’t, they need the help and time to recover. You can tell if you are feeling depression if you find yourself losing interest in doing stuff you usually like doing or if you are shutting yourself away, isolating yourself from your loved ones.

What causes Depression?

What causes Depression?

Depression is caused through feeling at least one or a few of the following feelings: high amounts of stress, having low self-esteem (low self-confidence), self-loathing (self-hate), being lonely or struggling with another health condition (could be physical or mental). This all stems from looking back into the past at something you did, something that happened to you or something you are doing now. It never comes from what will happen in the future as that is where anxiety comes from.

How do I manage Depression?

How do I manage Depression?

Managing Depression is all about maintaining your MIND and BODY whilst knowing what to do if you need to HELP ANOTHER. Aspie Heroes has put each of these things into sections down below to help.

How does maintaining my “Mind” help my Depression?

How does maintaining my “Mind” help my Depression?

Your Mind is the first thing to be affected by Depression, if you feel depressed in your mind then you won’t want to do stuff with your Body. Whatever the Mind does the Body follows so if you maintain your Mind you can then work on maintaining your Body. You can find strategies on how to maintain your Mind by using the tabs above.

How do I “Maintain my Mind” whilst having Depression?

How do I “Maintain my Mind” whilst having Depression?

There are 3 areas we can look at to help you with Maintaining your Mind. These are: Understand your Situation, Gain Perspective and Talking Therapy. We have broken each of these areas down in the tabs above.

How do I “Understand my Situation”?

How do I “Understand my Situation”?

Understanding your Situation is about working out what is making you depressed. Down below, you can find different situations that make people depressed, see if any match with yours. These situations are:

Stressful Events

Stressful Events

Stress is one of the biggest causes of depression which can come from difficult, Stressful Events in our lives such as a family bereavement (a death), a relationship breaking down, being made redundant from work (forced to leave) or even something you have failed at. A lot of the time, the stress we feel from these events comes from us trying to juggle the other things in our lives whilst dealing with these events.

Personality

Personality

Everyone’s Personality is different, some people have strong personalities allowing them to easily deal with depression but many more people aren’t like this. Most people have low self-esteem (low self-confidence) and are self-critical, in fact autistic people are the biggest self-critics on the planet as we will always mentally beat ourselves up over our inability to do and deal with things the way we see other people do more successfully than us. We can get this way from our earlier life experiences such as being bullied which can make us feel like we are less of a person than we truly are.

Family History

Family History

If there is someone else in your family that you know has depression, you may have inherited from them as depression can run in our genes. If you are not sure if other family members have suffered with depression or if they know members who have suffered, then ask them.

Pregnancy & Menopause

Pregnancy & Menopause

Women can become depressed from Pregnancy or Menopause in their periods. Depression from Pregnancy is better known as Prenatal/Antenatal Depression (during pregnancy) or Postnatal Depression (after giving birth), these stem from the difficultly to accept responsibility for a new life and whether or not you will do a good job at it. Menopause is when your periods stop due to low hormone levels, it also causes you to struggle to come to terms with the changes your body is going through.

Loneliness

Loneliness

Being on your own for a long period of time is very unhealthy for your mental health. With no one to talk to or be around, you will hold in all your emotions, feeling and thoughts inside yourself which will painfully eat away at you until you explode either in anger or sadness. You maybe alone willingly or even worse, you may have been cut off from your friends and family. The only way to deal with loneliness is to find company, you can look for social groups to go or you need to try to make up with your friends and family.

Illness

Illness

You are likely to feel more depressed when you are suffering from a long-standing or life threatening illness such as heart disease or cancer. Now everything in your life has to stop and revolve around dealing with this illness you didn’t need or ask for in your life but now it is here and must be dealt with to avoid further complications in later life.

Midlife Crisis

Midlife Crisis

When you reach the ages between 40-60, you may start feeling depressed about your life’s journey up to your current age. This is called a Midlife Crisis, where you start questioning the things you have done and the choices you have made up until this point in your life. One way of expressing this, is trying to dress up or do things in ways that make you feel younger.

How do I “Gain Perspective”?

How do I “Gain Perspective”?

Gaining Perspective is about making it easier to understand all the issues that are causing depression by visualising them. By visualising these issues, you will now be able to see exactly how many issues you actually have. In order to help you do this, Aspie Heroes has put together a step by step guide down below.

Write Everything Down

Write Everything Down

The first thing to do is to get some paper or open a word processing software and write a list of everything down that is making you feel depressed. It doesn’t matter how big, small, major or minor it is; just write it all down so it is now out of your mind and on paper. You now have a list of all your issues in one place that you can visualise. Now, we need to start working on them.

Work out what you can Change

Work out what you can Change

Go through each issue on your list, one by one. Ask yourself, What can I do to change this issue? For example, if you have a gap in your skills, can you find a qualification to learn these skills. If you can’t change the issue, is there an alternative solution to the problem such as if you can’t get a qualification, you can try to learn the skills either online or through volunteering. Another example is if you are unable to drive because you are not allowed to or have been denied a license, you cannot change this, so an alternative to this is to get a travel pass to lessen the financial issues with travel.

Forget what you can’t Change

Forget what you can’t Change

If there is something you can’t change and there is no alternative solution to it then you need to forget about it. It is pointless to worry about something you can’t change, so forget about it: push it out of your mind, take it off your list and focus on what you can change, not what you can’t change.

Put them in order of Priority

Put them in order of Priority

Now that all you have left are the issues you can change or have an alternative solution, you need to make a new list prioritising the issues in order of how you will tackle them. You first need to consider if there are any issues that have a deadline to them (needing to be done within a certain time) as these will HAVE to come first whether you like it or not. Also you need to think logically, as for example if your issue is looking for a job but you don’t have the skills to do that job, then you need to prioritise getting the skills first.

Work on One Issue at a Time

Work on One Issue at a Time

It’s just a matter of working on your issues now. Remember, focus on getting one issue sorted at a time because taking too many things on at once is what played a big part in your depression in the first place and this will then only add to your depression. Once one issue is sorted, move on to the next and the next until they are all sorted.

How do I use “Talking Therapy” to help my Depression?

How do I use “Talking Therapy” to help my Depression?

Talking Therapy is one of the best ways get help with your depression. By talking to someone else about it, you are offloading your issues and allowing someone else to know you are feeling depressed. Through Talking Therapy you can get advice for your issues and simply even having a good ear to listen to you maybe all you actually need. Aspie Heroes has created a list of ideas, to help you find Talking Therapy, down below.

Phone

Phone

The easiest way to get Talking Therapy is to simply pick up the Phone and call either a friend or a family member. Your friends and especially your family know you better than anyone else on the planet, this means that they will more likely be able to give you the best advice that will work for you whereas someone like a Doctor would only be able to give general advice.

In Person

In Person

It’s even better if you can arrange to meet your friend or family member in person as many people are uncomfortable talking about their issues over the phone and it can be harder to explain yourself over the phone as you can’t see each other’s faces properly. In person you can talk as long as you like without running up an expensive phone bill and you can even show things that can help explain your issues.

Doctors

Doctors

One of the best people to see especially when you have severe depression is your Doctor. Your Doctor can help you through prescribing medication, social prescribing and referring you to places that offer counselling. How much help you will get from your Doctor depends on how much you tell them about your depression and what they think is best for you.

Helplines

Helplines

Seeing a Doctor is a must if you have severe depression but they only work certain hours and you may have to wait for an appointment. This is were helplines come in, they are available from your phone, are operated by people who are willing to listen and advise you in an emergency especially if you are in a crisis. One of these helplines are The Samaritans on 116 123 who are available 24/7 and are free to call from any phone.

Social Groups

Social Groups

Social Groups are informal environments where you can meet like minded people without the pressure of the formalities that come with various mental health treatments. Some groups simply offer you a place to socialise, other groups such as “Ladders of Life” and ‘Autistic Spectrum Collective” are ran for people with autism by those with autism who offer what is known as “Peer Support” where you can hear from and be advised by people who have also dealt with the same issues you have.

Councillors

Councillors

Councillors are experts in psychology (how the mind works) and it is their job to help those with mental health issues such as depression. If you need a more formal safe environment to discuss your issues then seeing a Councillor maybe the best thing for you. A Councillor will treat you with dignity, respect and everything discussed is completely confidential (remains between you and the Councillor). They may not know you personally but they know how people think and sometimes an outside opinion may work better than a friend/family opinion.

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Unfortunately, it takes time to deal with Depression. If you try to rush through solving your issues, you will only make your Depression worse. In order to deal with Depression, you have to take your time. You need to take the time to deal with each issue properly so that they don’t keep coming back and most importantly, you need to make time for yourself so you can heal, rest and avoid being burned out by your issues.

How does maintaining my “Body” help my Depression?

How does maintaining my “Body” help my Depression?

Your Body is linked to your Mind. By this, we mean that if your Body is in poor condition (due to eating unhealthily or from lack of exercise) then your Mind will suffer from that but if you maintain your Body by keeping it in good condition then your Mind will be positively impacted- Healthy Body = Healthy Mind.

How do I “Maintain my Body” whilst having Depression?

How do I “Maintain my Body” whilst having Depression?

There are 3 ways to Maintain your Body whilst having depression and these are: Diet, Exercise and Rest. Each of these ways are covered until the tabs above.

How will “Diet” help me with my Depression?

How will “Diet” help me with my Depression?

The most important part of Maintaining your Body is Diet. Diet is what food you put into your Body and what you put in affects what comes out as eating bad foods (what to avoid) will lead to weight gain, low energy levels and even more Depression. Below, you can find a list of things to consider about your Diet with Depression:

What to Avoid - Food

What to Avoid - Food

What to Avoid in your Diet is Bad Food. Sugary foods such as chocolate and ice cream are bad for you as they will make you feel drowsy and cause weight gain. High Calorie Fatty foods such as chips, burgers and pizzas are bad for you as the fat in them will cause rapid weight gain.

What to Avoid - Drinks

What to Avoid - Drinks

What to Avoid in your Diet is Bad Drinks. Energy Drinks are a sugary drink that give you a burst of energy but this burst is short lived leading to a sugar crash where drowsiness sets in, they are basically sugar in a can. Caffeine can be bad for you in high doses as too much caffeine can prevent you from sleeping at night and can lead to becoming wired meaning you are overstimulated and jumpy. The worst of all is Alcohol, as can cause you to lose control of yourself leading to anger or even worse- Addiction (where you can’t stop).

Fruit & Vegetables

Fruit & Vegetables

The best things to eat are Fruit & Vegetables. You should aim to eat 5 pieces a day. Fruit & Veg contain vitamins which are nutrients that help the Body get more energy, burn fat and have many other positives impacts. Fruit can be eaten as a snack instead of chocolate or biscuits. You can even drink Fruit in the form of Fruit juice as it still has vitamins in it. Vegetables can be eaten with any meal as a side which means they should be in every meal. If you struggle with preparing veg then you can buy pre-cut ones such as onions or mushrooms.

Water

Water

Water is good for you as it cleans out your Body and helps you to flush out waste making you feel better. The advantage of water is it is free as you can get it from a tap. You need to drink 2 litres of water everyday which can be daunting but you can buy water bottles with measurements on them in different sizes. Smaller size bottles are more portable, ideal for walking around with but you can get bottles that are 2 litres in size meaning you would only need to refill it once a day which is easy to remember to do.

Smaller Portions

Smaller Portions

It’s not just about what you eat but HOW MUCH you eat as well. Eating a large amount of food can lead to weight gain so you need to make sure you keep this under control. You can do this by eating Small Portions of food which can be as simple as using smaller plates instead of regular sized dinner plates whilst covering half your plate with veg. One last thing to try is having smaller foods such as having a 400g loaf of bread instead of the normal 800g OR half a portion of the food such as half a pack of microwave rice sealing the other half for later. It’s that simple.

Calorie Counting

Calorie Counting

Calorie Counting is a great way to track how much you eat. Usually is is recommended men eat 2000 calories a day and women eat 1700 calories a day but we have found that eat less than intended (about 200-300 less) is doable and will help contribute to weight loss along exercise. You can get calorie information from food packing which you can then write down or you can use Calorie Counting apps to record them as these will work it all out for you. We recommend an App called Lose It! You can find download links for it down below.

What kinds of “Exercise” can help me with Depression?

What kinds of “Exercise” can help me with Depression?

There are different kinds of Exercise you can do, these can range from simple everyday Exercise to Exercises that require extra steps such as owning something or needing to pay. Below is a list of exercises you can do to help you during depression:

Walking/Running

Walking/Running

The simplest form of exercise is Walking. A 30 minute walk per day can help you clear your head and can help your metabolism (the body’s process of breaking down food). You can walk anywhere but it helps to walk were there is nature as the sound of birds chirping for example can be relaxing or can get you pumped to walk). If you want to take this up a notch, then try Running. Running pushes you even harder than walking, can be done anywhere and increases stamina.

Simple Additions to Walking or Running

Simple Additions to Walking or Running

When walking or running, there are some simple things you can do to take them up a notch such as using stairs instead of lifts or escalators. Walking up hills or through sand dunes are a simple ways to make your walking more impactful. You can do these at anytime even when shopping or working. Another simple thing to do is take the long way around places instead of shortcuts in order to extend your walk.

Workout Programs

Workout Programs

Thanks to the digital age, Workout Programs can be found everywhere: on TV, the internet, YouTube, Apps and even Smart Speakers. These programs can be done at your leisure in your own home, ranging from 45 minute workouts to as little as 5 minute workouts. They can be simple aerobics or they can help you work on specific body parts such as your Core (Chest and Stomach). There are so many options out there and so many ways to exercise.

Cycling

Cycling

If you have a bike, then going Cycling is another great form of exercise. They are better than e-bikes or e-scooters as your Body has to physically move the bike and you don’t need to recharge it. You can use a bike to travel to places such as work meaning you can fit exercise before or after work. If you are considering getting a bike, get a folding bike as these can be stored easily and can be taken anywhere, even in your car.

Swimming

Swimming

There should be a local swimming pool in you area. You need to pay to use them but you can do this without getting a membership which is handy if you are not sure if it is the right thing for you. Swimming is relaxing, you can do it at your own pace and is a low impact exercise meaning it is ideal for those with mobility issues- we have even seen a man with only one leg swim in our local pool. If you are daring and want to save money, you could go down to the beach and swim in the sea.

How will “Rest” help me deal with my depression?

How will “Rest” help me deal with my depression?

Everyone needs to have a “Rest”. If we don’t take the time to “Rest” then we could end up burning ourselves out meaning we will be tired which leads to anger, frustration and depression. We are not robots, we are humans and humans need “Rest”, its natural. Down below, are some strategies to help you “Rest”:

Sleep Right

Sleep Right

In order to sleep right you need to set a specific time at night to go to bed and a specific time to wake up. This will build a routine and routines are what autistic people can thrive with. You need to get at least 8 hours of sleep a night to get proper rest. Other things you should do to sleep right are avoid drinking caffeine or blue light exposure (phones, computers, tablets) before bed as these will keep you awake. Lastly, make sure to set alarms for bed time and waking up so you don’t oversleep, if you do oversleep set another alarm for a short time after the original alarm.

Power Naps

Power Naps

Power Naps are helpful if you need rest but are short on time to do so. A Power Nap involves sleeping for 20-30 minutes and can be be great for your Mental Health which Depression is apart of. The idea of a Power Nap is to rest yourself but not fall into a deep sleep as waking up from a deep sleep can leave feeling tired and groggy which defeats the object of a Power Nap.

Make Time for Yourself

Make Time for Yourself

Remember, Rest isn’t just about sleeping, it is also about Making Time for Yourself. Making Time for Yourself can be as simple as stepping out of a room, having a walk or having a day away from commitments. Having a day away from commitments can be a lazy day, a shopping day, even a day spent with family or friends. If you work, your employer must offer you a certain amount of holiday days a year by law. Make use of these holiday days as that is what they are there for, everyone needs a Rest.

Digital Detox

Digital Detox

A Digital Detox means taking time away from Digital Technology as it can consume a lot of our time doing nothing productive. A Digital Detox can remind us that we are humans not machines and that technology is a tool not a replacement to our lives. A Digital Detox can start with us using no tech an hour before bedtime, putting your phone on the other side of the room or in another room. Try turning your phone off or on silent for a while and try to talk to people instead of going for your phone. Instead of using tech try reading a book (physical one), going for a walk or using alternatives like notepads or diaries.

One Day at a Time

One Day at a Time

When you are in Depression it can be hard to think straight about how to go forward in life. When you are feeling like this, you need to focus on dealing with your life One Day at a Time. Focus on getting through each day, working on that day’s issues as this will rest your overwhelmed mind allowing you to slowly get your life back on track. Take all the time you need, don’t let other people rush you, you will get through your Depression far easier this way as you will be able to take back control of your life.

Eat Less, Move More, Rest Right

Eat Less, Move More, Rest Right

You don’t need to have the physique of Arnold Schwarzenegger to have great Physical Health; by Eating Less, Moving More and Resting Right you can be more Physically Healthy and thus more Mentally Healthy which can help beat back Depression.